People who consistently lie often believe that no one has a clue to their deceitful words or actions. Eventually all white lies turn into bigger, bolder lies. These lies often do not make sense or are truly alarming. Body language and spoken words are important to pay attention to. Lies often reveal the truth about personal choices, hidden desires, and the level of deceit they are comfortable with. Here are some tips on how to know if someone is lying.
Lies are often told to leave out important details on an event that has happened. The liar may often repeat a fact. This fact usually will have nothing to do with the details, or finding out the true story. Jokes that are told that are not within the context of the conversation is a popular tactic of liars to change the subject. Sarcasm and displaced humor is often a response to a lie being questioned.
Human Lie Detector
Liars may avoid looking directly in the eyes while talking. Their eyes may be fixed on other objects or people in the room. A liar, who stares without natural blinking movements, may also stare directly into your eyes.
The liar in question may sit hunched over with their hands or legs crossed. If a lie might provoke a violent reaction in others, the perpetrator may start to sweat. Excessive fidgeting and touching the face may indicate deception by the person who is speaking. Bold lies often cause the liar to blush.
How to Spot a Liar
Many habitual lies often start out to disguise a truth that they would like to conceal about themselves. These lies often make their behavior appear erratic or unstable because their statements do not make sense to anyone who is paying attention. White lies often create reasons for numerous supporting lies to be told.
According to Charles V. Ford in the book Lies, Lies, Lies the Psychology of Deceit, "A repeated lie may bolster self-esteem by displacing blame for one's failures to someone else, or it may create a personal myth of success based on fantasy." These fantasies can create large relationship rifts in people who are being lied to. These relationships could be with co-workers, friends, neighbors, or family members.
People's reasons for telling a lie are often linked tol deep problems or personal short comings. Changing the subject matter when you are being told blatant false statements can be a great way to save or tolerate the relationship. Practice listening to what people say as well as their actions. Study the body language of a liar, and you will be able to identify habitually lying in conversation.
Book: Ford, Charles V. Lies, Lies, Lies the Psychology of Deceit, 1 edition: American Psychiatric Publishing, Inc., 1999.
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